Books Regarding Collaborative Divorce
For the General Public:
The Collaborative Way to Divorce : The Revolutionary Method that Results in Less Stress, Lower Costs, and Happier Kids–Without Going to Court
Ousky, Ron and Webb, Stuart, Hudson Street Press, 2006. This is one of the top books regarding collaborative divorce and is written for someone contemplating a divorce. It is well written and shorter than the Pauline Tesler book — also written in 2006.
Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move On With Your Life
Tesler, Pauline and Thompson, Peggy. This is the other book for individuals who are considering the collaborative divorce option. It is somewhat longer than the book by Stu Webb. It is written for the non-professional (although any collaborative professional should also read this book)
For Collaborative Divorce Professionals:
Collaborative Law: Achieving Effective Resolution in Divorce without Litigation: 2nd Edition
Pauline Tesler, 2008 In terms of books regarding collaborative divorce, this one should be read by lawyers practicing in the field.
Collaborative Divorce Handbook: Helping Families Without Going to Court
Forest Mosten, 2009. Any collaborative divorce professional should also read this book. The opening chapter on the so called paradigm shift is well written. His third chapter on using mediation as part of the collaborative divorce process is well done. For collaborative professionals he has an excellent chapter on how to build your collaborative practice. Click here to view a sample chapter. ~
Article Online Regarding Building a Collaborative Divorce Practice by Forest Mosten.
Another good resource for collaborative divorce professionals is his article titled, “Building a Successful Law Practice Without Ever Going To Court”
Books About Negotiation:
Getting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In
Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce Patton, 1991. This is generally considered to be the “Bible” of principled negotiations.
Robert Mnookin, 2000. This book is good reading for the collaborative professional.
Getting Past No, Negotiating Your Way From Confrontation to Cooperation
William Ury, 1993.
Beyond Reason: Using Emotions as You Negotiate
Roger Fisher, Daniel Shapiro, 2006. An excellent read not only for a Collaborative professional, but anyone. The preface states, “Whether negotiating with an angry boss or an outraged teenager, emotions can derail you. Properly treated, however, they can help you achieve the results you want. This book shows you how.”
Communication Books Helpful for Collaborative Practice:
Difficult Conversations, How to Discuss What Matters Most
1999, Viking Press – Stone, Douglas; Patton, Bruce; Heen, Sheila (Harvard Negotiation Project). This book is great reading for a collaborative professional as well as any individual. It starts, “Asking for a raise. Ending a relationship. Getting a critical performance review. Saying no to someone in need… At work, at home and across the backyard fence, difficult conversations are attempted or avoided every day.”
Taking the War Out of the Words: The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication
Sharon Ellison (2002). This is an excellent resource for collaborative professionals and for individuals going through a collaborative divorce (or even seeking to avoid a divorce) is Taking the War out of the Words. The tenants work equally well in negotiating traditional adversarial negotiation but are especially well geared toward collaborative representation. It is recommended that you listen to this book on CD.
Books on the Role of the Lawyer Generally
The New Lawyer
Another great recommendation for books on collaborative divorce is this one by Julie Macfarlane, May 20, 2008.
Transforming Practices, Tenth Anniversary Edition: Finding Joy and Satisfaction in the Legal Life
Steven Keeva, (August 16, 2010)
Collaborative Divorce Articles
Aside from the many books on collaborative divorce, there have also been many magazine publications that can help attorneys and those seeking divorce to learn more about the process.